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Squabble in The Right Way

Squabble is better to quench at the beginning.

Just say: “Wait, I just recalled …” and after this tell some important stuff about someone from your close circle (let it be even complete baloney – you will work something out later). For example, say that Johnson has final break-up with his girlfriend; or say that mom called and said that her water heater exploded. Or do something unexpected – blow a whistle with two fingers or make a back flip (note: your act must carry nothing offensive or aggressive, for example, do not toss into window her collection of Maureen Dowd writings). Recall some super-urgent business, give her a kiss and leave the room with a promise to be back soon. Before coming back you better call her and make sure that she chilled out.

Be specific.

Never generalize when you are arguing. Statements like “you are always rambling hell knows where”, “it is impossible to find anything in this house” or “all your girlfriends are brainless cows” will be taken as an unjust offense, even if they are true as 2 x 2 = 4. Be specific in your argument. Say instead: “you are three hours late”, “where did you put the bottle opener?” or “I think, Jessica is saying total bullshit” – this will allow you to express your feelings without any offensive generalizations.

Do not rush to deliver last year news.

She knows well even without you, that a year ago she purchased this stupid Tiffany lamp. As well as you already heard before that in 2003 you didn’t send her mom a postcard on Columbus Day. Try to dig out something fresh for your arguments.

Follow the grammar.

Are there just two of you? Then talk about “you” and “me”, and not about abstract “people” or “somebody”. Here are several examples: “This is ridiculous!” that’s bad, “I don’t like that you just said” – that’s good. “Only complete idiot will eat this crap” – bad, “I hate frozen beans” – good. “I am not going to explain anything to anyone!” – bad. “I feel like you don’t want to understand me” – good.

Do not ask “Why?” Because during the argument, when feelings are boiling, you will get the only answer: “Because!” There will go all your talk …

Start your argument immediately.

If you do not like something, say it right away, do not take a week for reflections. The faster will be your reaction, the faster the conflict will be resolved.

Do not play solo.

You’ve said your part? Give her a chance to say hers, who knows, maybe she will say something reasonable. In any case, look into her eyes when she speaks. Women hate talk to stubborn backs and sarcastic profiles. Men, actually, do too.

Each one should get a glass of some cold drink.

Not for pouring the contents into each other’s faces, but for taking breaks in the quarrel and chilling out. Just in case, you better use plastic cups.